How much of your life have you spent
Defining who you are and are not
Depending on others' opinions of you?
How much of your life have you spent
Worrying and caring about
What others think of you
Having constant anxiety
Thinking and believing
There's something wrong with you
Why can't you be normal like everybody else
You said something wrong
You did something wrong
Or nobody likes you?
How much of your life have you spent
Bending over backwards
Saying yes when you wanted to say no
Saying no when you wanted to say yes
Saying what you didn't want to mean
Not saying what you really wanted to mean
In order to please others?
How much of your life have you spent
Defining your worth and value
Depending on how much or little
Others like or dislike you,
Approve or disapprove of you?
How much of your life have you been
Encouraged and empowered to
Trust you and your choices
Or have you been told otherwise ?
As a result of it, how much of your life
Have you spent doubting you and
Getting confused, having no idea
What you truly want while
Being so aware of what others want?
Since when everybody else's opinions
And points of view,
Approval or disapproval of you
Became your final verdict?
Does it make you feel exhausted
And heavy as hell?
Because it is not the kind of life
You deserve to live
Period
Because you are born to be happy and free
You are born to be worthy and deserving
Not to suffer, definitely not at others'
Final verdicts and judgment of you
Does it feel lighter for you?
Whatever feels lighter is always true for you
Whatever feels heavier is always a lie,
And most of the time, it is the lie or lies
We buy from everybody else
As ours when it is not
What if everything you believed
As wrongness of you is actually your greatness
That nobody has ever pointed out, acknowledged,
Encouraged or empowered you to be?
Because they can't and won't
See or acknowledge about themselves,
How can they ever see or acknowledge you?
So how much of all these lies that
You have no worth
You have no value
There is something wrong with you
You ain't amount to nothing
Did you perceive from
All those who taught you
As real, true and yours
When it actually wasn't?
A little, a lot or all of it?
Everything that is, would you like to
Return it all to them please?
And everything you have done
To give your power away
To others and their opinions of you
To make them your final verdict
As though they are your ultimate God
To define your worth,
Who you are and who you are not,
Making you wrong and your life miserable
At every turn, swinging back and forth
Between people's different opinions of you
Rather than your own,
Everything that is, would you like to
Uncreate, delete, destroy and
Take your power back please?
Just because someone has a title of whatever,
Their opinions of you automatically
Have weight and define your worth,
Who you are and what you are
For what reason?
What if you are your final verdict
Without the need of
Anybody else's approval of you?
What if you dare to speak your truth
Regardless of what others like or dislike you,
Judging you as this or that?
What if you are willing to say no
And walk away if and whenever
You feel devalued, disempowered
And unappreciated?
What if you are willing to stand alone
If and when required
Following your heart
Living your truth
Against all odds?
What if you are willing to choose your truth
Trust it and trust your knowing in the face
Of fears and self-doubt screaming at you?
What if you are willing to be the leader
Of your own path regardless of
Anyone else getting you, joining you
Or cheering you on or not?
What if you are willing to be the first
And greatest believer in you
Before anybody else,
And over all fears and doubts?
It takes a hell of courage of a true God's warrior
To walk the path you have been walking
You are willing to challenge this comfort zone,
All the need to fit in or belong,
And all these lies
Of fears, doubts and self-doubt
Straight in the face, saying
'You ain't define me'
'I am greater than this'
You desire to go beyond the so-called 'normal'
Because you know there is something greater
Beyond everything that is ever known or taught
What if you no longer need to be normal
Like everybody else?
What if there is nothing normal about you?
Because that is your greatness
That is your gift
That is your power
That is your potency
That is your difference
That is your strength
That is your extraordinariness
Would you like to acknowledge and receive
It all about you and for you?
That is when no fear or self-doubt
Has power over you
This is when you disrupt and smash
It all into nothingness
That is when you realize
None of this fear, doubt or
People's opinions of you is real
That is when you realize
It has no hold over you
It has no power over you
It has no final say over you
It ain't your final verdict
You are your final verdict
You are your final authority
Keep choosing to trust you
Keep choosing to trust your knowing
Keep choosing to follow your heart
Keep choosing to follow your eternal light
Within you, which is your ultimate Source
Against all odds
You are the only one who knows
What is true and light for you
That is how powerful and capable you are
With your freedom to choose YOU
Your total being
Your magnificent YOU
You are on your way reclaiming
All of YOU
For all eternity and back
You got this. One step at a time.
- Phuong
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